Embracing Change: A Journey from Drab to Fab Life

Last week, I ran into someone I’ve been connected to on social media for more than ten years. She stopped me and said, “I used to love reading your blogs.”

That one sentence landed harder than she probably realized. The truth is, I haven’t written consistently in years. Not because I stopped caring, but because life… kept happening.

And if you’ve ever felt like life knocked the wind out of you long enough that you forgot who you were before it did — this is for you.

When Life Doesn’t Just Change — It Pivots

Since 2020, my life has looked nothing like what I imagined:

• A divorce that changed everything I thought was stable.

• Multiple moves that left me feeling unrooted.

• Watching my daughter become a mom — twice — and stepping into becoming a Coco myself.

• Major surgeries (mine, my daughter’s, my dog’s — yes, all of it).

• Losing a business I built from the ground up over 15 years.

  
  

That last one? It shook my identity. When you pour your heart, time, and purpose into something for that long, losing it feels personal. It’s not just a business loss — it’s a grief.

And here’s what no one really talks about: you can be strong and still feel completely undone.

The Myth of “Bouncing Back”

I don’t believe in bouncing back anymore. Because that implies returning to who you were before life changed you. Instead, I believe in moving forward differently. Wiser. Softer in some places. Stronger in others. More selective. More honest.

Reinvention doesn’t come from pretending nothing hurt. It comes from acknowledging what did — and choosing not to stay stuck there.

How to Keep Going When Everything Feels Uncertain

Here are a few truths that helped me keep putting one foot in front of the other:

1. You’re allowed to grieve what you lost — even if others don’t understand it

Grief isn’t just about people. It’s about:

• Lost routines.

• Lost dreams.

• Old versions of yourself.

  
  

Don’t rush the healing because someone else thinks you should be “over it.”

2. You don’t need a full plan — just the next honest step

There were seasons where my only goal was:

• Get up.

• Show up.

• Do the next right thing.

  
  

Clarity comes after movement, not before.

3. Your worth didn’t disappear with your circumstances

This one took me a while. Titles change. Businesses end. Roles shift. But your experience, wisdom, and resilience don’t vanish. They transfer.

Reinvention Isn’t About Becoming Someone New

It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you who you had to be. Reinvention looks like:

• Asking better questions.

• Setting firmer boundaries.

• Letting go of what no longer fits.

• Saying yes to things that feel aligned — even if they don’t make sense to anyone else.

  
  

Sometimes it’s quieter than people expect. Sometimes it’s slower. Sometimes it starts with something simple… like writing again.

If You’re in a Transition Season, Hear This

You are not behind. You are not broken. You are not starting over from scratch. You’re starting over from experience. And that matters.

This is me choosing to write again — not because everything is perfect, but because it’s real. If you’re navigating change, loss, or reinvention, I see you. And if you’re still standing, even when it’s hard — you’re doing better than you think.

The Importance of Community

As we navigate these transitions, let’s not forget the power of community. Surrounding ourselves with supportive people can make all the difference. Sharing our stories, our struggles, and our victories can create a bond that uplifts us all.

Finding Your Tribe

Finding a group of like-minded individuals can be incredibly empowering. Whether it’s through social media, local meetups, or workshops, connecting with others who understand your journey can provide encouragement and inspiration.

The Power of Sharing

When we share our experiences, we not only help ourselves heal but also offer a lifeline to others. Your story might resonate with someone else, giving them hope and strength to keep going.

Embracing Your Journey

Remember, your journey is uniquely yours. Embrace it! Celebrate the small victories and learn from the setbacks. Each step you take is part of your growth.

Setting Intentions

As you move forward, consider setting intentions for what you want to achieve. Intentions can guide you and keep you focused on your goals. They can be as simple as “I will take time for myself” or “I will seek joy in everyday moments.”

Practicing Self-Compassion

Be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to have days when you feel overwhelmed. Acknowledge those feelings and give yourself permission to rest. Self-compassion is key to navigating life’s ups and downs.

Conclusion: Here’s to Continuing

Here’s to continuing. Not perfectly. Just honestly. Life may throw challenges our way, but we have the strength to rise above them. Let’s embrace the journey together!

XO,

Lisa

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